"I now have two families. I love them with all my heart." Collette Badger, Colorado

Denver, Colorado resident Collette Badger, 66, always knew that she was adopted. She felt different from her parents and had always wanted to find her birth family and to know whom she resembled. After several failed searches in archives and via court appeals, she decided a DNA test might be her only answer. Finally, her 55-year search was over. Thanks to her MyHeritage DNA test and the help of Legacy Tree Genealogists, Collette found her biological sister, Yvette, 75.

Collette’s parents never hid the fact that she was adopted. They would say things like, “when we got you” instead of “when you were born.” When she was 10, Collette remembers rummaging through her parents’ belongings and finding her adoption papers. She discovered that her birth name was Noella, that she had French Canadian heritage, and at the time of her adoption, she had three older siblings, Philip, 11; Yvette, 9 1/2; and Lorraine, 7.

When Collette turned 18, she decided it was time to dig deeper. She turned to a judge in Miami and asked for her parents’ names or photos. The judge responded unkindly, saying, “Your parents gave you away and that’s that, next!”

Collette, however, never gave up. She continued searching in her 20s and then in her 40s to gain access to old records from the hospital where she was born as well as records from the original adoption agency.

At 65, Collette’s good friend, Holly, proposed a new solution — MyHeritage DNA. After six weeks, the results came back and together they opened them. Collette was speechless — she had no French roots but discovered she was 80% Irish! All those years her adoptive parents had assured her she was French. Her parents named her Colette because they presumed she was French and was tutored to speak French. Throughout junior high, high school, and even college, she took classes in French. She even dreamed in French!

MyHeritage referred Collette to Legacy Tree Genealogists who offer genealogical and DNA research services. Carolyn, from the Legacy team, became Collette’s project manager. Together they defined Collette’s goal to find her birth parents and family.

Just a few months later, Collette received a call from Carolyn that forever changed her life.

Colette’s closest genetic match on MyHeritage shared enough DNA to be either a first cousin, half-nephew, or great-nephew. Because of the age difference, Carolyn hypothesized he was a great-nephew. Furthermore, he listed his great-grandparents as Joseph St. Laurent (1916-1989) and Noella Roy (1922-2005).

Carolyn was then able to locate Noella’s obituary. Noella named her children Phillip, Yvette, and Loraine. All the names corroborated with the information from Collette’s adoption — age, location, occupation, and more.

Using other genetic matches and document-based research, Carolyn helped Collette continue to build her family tree and extended her paternal and maternal ancestry back three generations to French Canada. Her ancestors migrated to French Canada from Ireland during the Great Potato Famine. Finally, the 80% Irish ethnicity received in her MyHeritage DNA results made sense.

Furthermore, Carolyn had even more information about her biological family. Although her sister Loraine was deceased, Yvette and Philip were still alive.

Collette waited until the time was right to reach out. She gathered her courage and made first contact with a reported niece, Lisa, and told her the story that the adoption agency had described, hoping she would pass the information onto Collette’s siblings.

Yvette will never forget the day Lisa reached out to her.

Lisa read me the text from the person claiming to be the baby who was supposed to have died all those years ago. Since I hadn’t told anyone about my Mom’s last pregnancy and coming home with empty arms — not my kids nor any other relatives, I knew that we were on to something.

Yvette explains her surprise in finding her sister after all this time.

My parents and siblings lived in Miami. I had a brother 18 months older, and a sister two years younger than me. When I was 9, I remember my mom being pregnant. When the time came they went to the hospital. When they came home they didn’t have the baby. I remember standing with my arms out asking, “Where’s the baby?”

Yvette explains that her parents were quite strict and she never questioned when they said that her baby sister “passed at birth.” She never asked and she couldn’t remember anything else that was said about the baby. Life went on.

In retrospect, she always picked up that something wasn’t quite right about the situation. She couldn’t remember getting ready for the baby — crib, clothes, and diapers. She also remembers wondering why there wasn’t some kind of service or funeral. Although nothing was ever brought up again, she still sometimes found herself having thoughts pop into her head about the baby. Was she out there?

As Yvette grew older and had four children of her own, she thought less and less about it. Everything changed when her niece, Lisa, got in touch to confirm her sister was, in fact, alive and ready to meet.

After four months of corresponding via FaceTime, Colette finally flew to Tampa Bay to meet her sister Yvette and her family. Yvette was waiting at the airport to meet her sister.

The two couldn’t have been more thrilled to find each other after so many years.

Colette explains, “I now have two families. I love them both with all my heart, but differently – something only being adopted can allow you to understand.”

Both Colette and Yvette express their sincere gratitude in fulfilling a 55-year dream of seeing a picture of her birth parents and meeting the sister she always hoped was there.

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  • Stephanie J Mitchell

    May 24, 2019

    That is awesome.. I too was adopted at birth but haven’t had to much luck on getting my information because I was born in California. It’s hard to get any info from them. Still closed adoptions.

  • Gary Ball

    May 24, 2019

    Found a half-sister thru DNA last year that no one even knew about. She lives in Minnesota and we all live in Maryland. My (our) father was a truck driver back in the 60’s and he says that he knew nothing about her. She has been out to visit me and my brother and sister 3 times since November. She is loved by all including my mother who treats her just like a daughter. Diane finally found the father that she never knew growing up (she was born in 1962). She will be spending a week in Maryland in June and will be spending her first Father’s Day with her father (who will be 83 this November).

  • Laurie Elliott

    May 26, 2019

    I am 63 yrs old and was adopted at birth and raised as an only child. I have always known I was adopted. A few years back I received my original Oregon BC with my bio Mom’s name. Through years of internet trial and error I found my mother and half sisters. My mother hasn’t spoken with me nor shared identifying info re my bio father. I posted my DNA results on My Heritage hoping to find more family connections. Around Christmas time 2018 I received an email and then a call from my bio half brother! I now know my biological family history and learned that I had 10 bio siblings, 5 each on my maternal and paternal sides in Alabama. I continue to be in touch with siblings on each side. I am at peace now.

  • Phyllis (Fusco) Lennerth

    June 5, 2019

    I joined My Heritage because of stories like these. I have a sister who was given up for adoption in 1940 before our parents were married. The records were sealed at the time and I am having no luck finding her. I’m hoping someone related to her will show up on my DNA registry.

  • Momčilo

    June 5, 2019

    We have a daughter, she born in Serbia doctor Vladislav Vukomanovic from the hospital “Institute for mother and child ” in Belgrade told us that she died. He did not allow us to see body of her and told us that the hospital making a funeral after the autopsy. After two months we ask a hospital where they were buried body of our baby. They told us that they do not have any document about funeral. We asked the cementary and they told us that body of our baby never get there. We sued the doctor to the court and they do nothing. In Serbia there are a lot of same stories that childrens are stolen from their parents. Today European Council is debating what to do with Serbian goverment bechause they do nothing to solve our problem and find our children.